Coping with a Sense of Spiritual Betrayal / Releasing Guilt Over Past Choices
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by Neva J. Howell unless otherwise noted
Spiritual Development Question: How to Release Feelings of Guilt
Spiritual Betrayal What do you do when you feel someone you love has been deprived of a strong spiritual choice? How much personal responsibility is entailed when we are involved in a situation of spiritual conflict with relatives? This question addresses one such situation.
Question on Healing:
I am upset because my brother wanted to be cremated but his wife was talked out of doing this. I feel that it is unfair of them to disregard his last wishes. I feel that his soul will be earthbound now because he is still unhappy. I don’t know what to do. I feel that I should go to the wake but not the funeral. I would appreciate any advice that you can give me.
Healing Facilitation Response:
Consider that you may have an opportunity to give your brother a priceless gift by connecting with him spiritually where he is in his transition and offering love and light for his journey.
We are not our bodies and he has a different perception on all that stuff now. He is on the other side.
I understand your being upset because his wishes were not honored and you have a right to feel that way. Let your brother know psychically that you would have supported his decision. Much more important than what happens to his body is what happens to his Spirit and it is not earthbound.
If you can help him release any resentment he may have over his wife’s decision (and the best way you can do that is to release your own resentment thru forgiveness), then the less likely he will be to need to hang around near the body.
The practice of Hoponopono has been deeply powerful in my own life. I don’t know why it works as well as it does; perhaps just the vibrational frequency of the words along with the intent to release the spiral of guilt and shame … anyway, it’s incredibly easy. You just repeat these words as often as feels right to you:
I love you
I say these Hoponopono phrases with most every healing session and in most every situation where there is unease and tension, whether or not I feel personally responsible because we are all connected; we are all part of whatever is happening to any of us.
Keep yourself in a positive forgiving place with all and keep your focus on him and your relationship to him. Your agreement was to support and that support may show up in a different way than you imagined.
It may be too late to get him the cremation he wanted; it’s not too late to support him. The shell has dropped away and can be forgotten now. Perhaps the opportunity now exists for you to spiritually support your brother in moving on from attachment to the physical body.
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