Mistaking Emotional Fluxes for Personal Identity
It’s just a feeling
by Neva J. Howell unless otherwise noted
I am not my feelings
I was having a real come-apart over something the other day. I don’t even remember what and the reason doesn’t matter.
In talking with a friend, she commented that it was “just a feeling”.
After we hung up, it dawned on me what that meant.
I had momentarily gotten so identified with a feeling that I thought it was me. I felt threatened or confused or addled by something I was giving more power than it had a right to have.
Feelings come and go, flux and flow, ebb and wane.
Feelings are not who I AM. It’s just a feeling.
I AM is having a feeling in a body.
Regardless of what the feeling may be, I still am I AM. I am so much more than the little me that is having some sort of come-apart.
Just remembering that helps me to also remember that “this too shall pass” and not to start building such a story around my emotions that they take over my life.