How to help a loved one who has had a stroke
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by N J Howell unless otherwise noted
What a stroke victim needs to recover better
I saw Jill Bolte Taylor on TED talks. She was sharing about having a stroke and realizing what was happening enough to document what it was like for science. Jill was working as a brain scientist when her massive stroke occurred.
Now that I’m reading the book, I’m noticing that she also documented how she felt as she was recovering from the stroke and what was valuabe and hindering to her recovery, with regard to the way those around her treated her.
I’m just listing a few things that Jill mentions as being important for her stroke recovery, because some of them are things are things that a person might not be conscious that they are even doing or not doing.
For Jill, it was very important that those around her believed she would recover, and she could see by body language and facial expressions when that belief wasn’t there. She needed for people not to act afraid of her. Noise wasn’t pleasant so she needed her environment kept quiet. She also found it very helpful when people were encouraging and positive. She writes:
“I needed people to celebrate the triumphs I made every day because my successes, no mater how small, inspired me.”
The back of the book has an appendix with 40 things Jill says she needed most after her stroke. That list starts with:
“I’m not stupid, I am wounded. Please respect me.”
“Come close, speak slowly and enunciate clearly.”
And I absolutely love this one:
“Approach me with an open heart and slow your energy down. Take your time.”
I think this book would be of great benefit to anyone who is helping a loved one recover from stroke.
Here’s an amazon link if you want more information:
My Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor